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Sneak Peak: Relationship Composite Reading

Human Design is an extraordinary tool for self-awareness and improving how we function in our lives. But that’s only half the story.

Human Design is also brilliant at helping us with relationships.

When we understand the energetic dynamics that underpin our relationships, we not only get clarity and helpful strategies for improving our interactions with others but we also gain compassion, patience, forgiveness, and the longer-term view. And those go a LONG way to improving the quality of our relationships, especially with the people we love. (Sometimes, those are the most challenging relationships!)

With specialized software, we can create a “relationship composite” chart that literally combines two personal Human Design bodygraph charts into one integrated composite chart.

This composite chart allows the trained Human Design professional to explore two important aspects:

  • the specific dynamics between the two people
  • the unique blueprint that gets created by the relationship

Just as we are influenced (“conditioned”) by others, we also exert influence ON others. Being aware of our own impact and being able to distinguish clearly what is “mine” from what is the other person’s allows us to be true to ourselves while truly honoring the other.

Although there are relationship “formulas” in Human Design for what works best and what doesn’t in relationships, I am a firm believer that ANY relationship can work with enough understanding and patience!

That said, there are of course some combinations that are more challenging than others. For example, if one person in a couple has the Gate 21 defined in her chart she will want to be in control of the money and resources in the relationship and will probably be a bit conservative—wanting to save rather than spend. If her partner has the Gate 45 defined in his chart, which completes the 21-45 Channel of Money within their relationship (the completion of a channel is a relationship dynamic is called an electromagnetic), he is likely to want to spend money. Without mutual understanding, this can create deep friction between them.

Different decision-making processes can also create frustration and tension. If one person is designed for fast decisions and the other person needs to take time to make decisions correctly, this can cause endless pressure and impatience for both people. Here is how two friends with different decision strategies worked things out.

Another challenge can be the different quality and quantity of energy, particularly the energy for “doing,” between the different Types. Here is a wonderful example of a Projector and a Manifestor learning how to support each other correctly.

These few examples just skim the surface of what can be learned from a Relationship Reading. In my work with clients, we spend 75 minutes together for such a reading. If you already know a lot about the other person’s chart, we spend the whole time looking at the two points above: the specific dynamics between the two charts, and the unique composite chart created by them.

If you don’t already know much about the other person’s chart, we can spend a little time on the highlights and relevant aspects of their chart, then dive into the relationship dynamics and the composite itself.

In case you’re wondering, the other person does NOT need to be present for (or even aware of) the reading. I’ve had many clients who simply want to understand and know how to support and interact better with their spouse, or child, or grandchild, or sibling, or business partner, or best friend.

Also, a Relationship Reading is an advanced reading and requires that YOU have had at least a basic reading about your own chart first. This makes what you learn in the Relationship Reading infinitely more valuable and usable.

Below is an actual composite chart so you can get a feel for what it’s like. The person on the left’s gates show as green on the composite, and the person on the right’s gates show as blue. This way it is clear who is bringing which energies to the composite. For this purpose, it doesn’t matter which gates are conscious (black) and which are unconscious (red). This composite is from a Celebrity Chart review I did about John F. Kennedy and Jackie Kennedy’s relationship. You can see their individual charts and read that review here.

Note: they have 4 electromagnetics in their composite, which is where a channel is half green and half blue. (Not the blue and green checkered gates)

If you’d like to explore having a Relationship Reading, you can learn more here.

One of the best ways to experience this reading is with a package of reading sessions. This can give you the depth of understanding about yourself and the other person to allow a true deepening of the relationship as well as an expansion of your own full expression. Read about Custom Reading and Deep Reading packages at their links.

 

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Example of how Type & Strategy can make/break marriage & business [case study]

It’s easy for me to talk about the power of using Type and Strategy in our lives (I’m a bit biased, of course!), but it makes the most sense when we can hear how it really impacts other people in their lives.

So I thought I’d share a quick story with you about Karen and Sergio and how they used their Types and Strategies to improve their marriage (of 27 years) and their business.

When Karen came to me for a Reading, she was struggling. She and her husband run a gallery together… he is the artist and she manages the business.

  • She was worn out from the daily operations of being at the gallery every day
  • She wasn’t using her true brilliance for strategically increasing their business
  • They were irritated with each other from the whole process

First, we focused on her. She is a Manifestor so she is designed to initiate things and get the ball rolling, but not to do all the work of implementing and follow through.

As Karen learned her Type and Strategy, she realized that it wasn’t correct for her, energetically, to work “in” the gallery and she was much more effective (and happier) when she worked “on” the gallery with her innovative ideas.

So she started delegating more to their employee and spending less time there. And her husband, the artist, started spending more time in the gallery which felt good to him and the customers loved being able to meet and talk with the artist himself.

Their pattern for implementing ideas to grow the gallery’s business had been that she would enthusiastically share a new idea with him (maybe a new painting style, new subject matter, or different arrangement of the gallery), and he would begin the process of shifting his work and moving things around to implement her idea.

But within no time, she would have several new ideas and be eager to implement those instead. She’s a Manifestor so that approach of “throwing spaghetti against the wall to see what sticks” is correct for her. She’s designed to have lots of ideas and start things.

But Sergio, who is a Projector, was exhausted from trying to keep up with her ideas. He had energetic whiplash from the speed of her frequent changes in direction! And it was a source of friction and frustration for both of them.

As they understood the dynamics of their different Types and Strategies, they realized that he could simply wait until some of her ideas “stuck to the wall” before he began implementing. And she agreed to “invite” him to implement an idea only when she felt good and clear about pursuing that particular idea.

They were so excited (and grateful) to have simple and sensible solutions to their issues. Their respective Types and Strategies were honored. And above all, the solutions felt inherently right to both of them.

Also, by her own admission, Karen said that the core Manifestor strategy of “informing before acting” had literally changed her life!

Now, they did both have personal Readings with me, plus a Relationship Reading, but here’s the point I want to drive home:

What had the greatest impact for them was simply knowing their basic Type and Strategy… which is ALL explained in my Success by TYPE courses.

You can learn more about the Courses here:
https://www.humandesignforsuccess.com/sbt-info

 

P.S.  We’re not all meant to succeed in the same way.  What works for one person won’t work for another.  Learn more

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Quick Tip: Words Don’t Teach, Only _______ Teaches

The other day I was visiting a good friend and we both received the same email asking for a donation to help another friend who was in need. My friend’s first reaction was that her income was limited right now and she just couldn’t afford to give any money away.

The next morning she said she had thought about it and realized she had been coming from a place of lack. And living a lack-based life wasn’t what she wanted to do or who she wanted to be. So she made a donation… with love and good will in her heart and a genuine spirit of generosity.

What struck me about this… and why I’m sharing this with you… isthe power of SELF-realization. When she first mentioned her reaction, I could have pointed out that she was coming from a lack mentality.

I could have expounded on Law of Attraction, you reap what you sow, yadda yadda yadda.

Not only would I have come off as preachy (which is especially unpleasant because I am a Projector), but she likely would have become defensive and just dug deeper into her reaction.

Instead, she had the space and took the time to come to her own realization and evolution in her thinking. It’s always more powerful when we see things for ourselves, rather than have someone else point them out.

Words don’t teach, only experience teaches.

This phrase is repeated often in the Abraham-Hicks work. It has made a lasting impression on me. It seems like a pretty fundamental principle of life.

It’s also why we say in Human Design to experiment with your design and try for yourself all that you learn about it. Don’t take anybody’s word for it. Go live it and see what happens.

Only from your direct experience of the results you produce will you have true understanding.

This, of course, also applies in every other aspect of our lives—with children, bosses, friends, spouses, etc.

Especially with children, it can be hard for us to let them experience things for themselves. We want to tell them what to do and what not to do. We want to share the benefits of our own experience. How well does that usually work?

Right.

So, in keeping with this theme, I invite you experiment with this principle. Because these words won’t teach you. Only your experience will. And let me know what you learn!

 

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Hot Tip for a “Happy, Romantic AND Transformational” Valentine’s Day (or any other Day!)

Isn’t it sad how Valentine’s Day sometimes (maybe often) falls short of our hopes and expectations?

There is actually a Human Design explanation for the strange energetics surrounding this particular holiday occurring at this specific time of year, but that’s not my topic for today.

What I want to share is a way for you to reconnect with the passion and romance you used to feel with your partner—in spite of the weird energy (and all the commercial hype)—and to keep that passion going.

If you routinely have a totally happy and satisfying Valentine’s Day… good for you! (But read on, because this tip can make it even better.)

But for the rest of us, instead of a day of blissful romance and tender love with our partner, we sometimes end up with unfulfilled expectations, disappointments, and maybe even thwarted intentions. Not very romantic.

If you’ve been there, this tip’s for you!

I’ll cut right to the bottom line. Besides feeling loved and accepted by you (if your partner isn’t feeling those from you, then work on those FIRST), what your partner most wants to feel is… appreciated.

[By the way, this tip isn’t just for romantic partnerships. Try it with your parent, your child, your business partner, your best friend, a family member, or anyone you’d like to have a better relationship with.]

Don’t YOU like to feel appreciated… for the person you are, for all you accomplish, for the skills and talents you have, for the contribution you make? For the thoughtful extras you do that seem to go unnoticed?

Doesn’t it soften your tension, ease your stress and warm your heart a bit when someone says, “Thank you” or “I appreciate what you’ve done,” and really means it?

HOT TIP FOR VALENTINE’S DAY… AND BEYOND!

Say (or do) at least one thing EVERY DAY that lets your partner know that you truly appreciate him or her. Start RIGHT NOW.

You may have heard this idea before, but I invite you to deeply engage with it. Embrace it with clear intent and nothing short of dedicated commitment. (Often, the simplest solutions, done consistently, are the most effective.)

Express what you love about this person. What you know you can count on them for. What they do that helps your life be better. Find something nice to say to them—every day.

It works best if you’re subtle and genuine about it. Make it natural, and it will become more natural the more you do it.

The change in your relationship will amaze you. I’m willing to bet it will rekindle some of that original passion you both felt.

HOW TO MAKE THIS REALLY EASY

Okay, so sometimes it won’t be easy to feel or express appreciation.

In fact, when we most need to express appreciation (because it would shift the energy of an interaction from negative to positive) is precisely when it is the hardest thing to do.

Here is a simple technique that will serve you well in those times (and for the rest of your lives together).

Get a piece of paper, a notebook, your journal, a 3 by 5 card… anything that works for you… and make a list of the things you love and appreciate about this person.

It’s easiest to begin when you’re feeling good about them and your relationship, but start right now anyway.

Remember what first attracted you to them. What thrills you about them. What impresses you about them. And what you TRULY appreciate about them.

Write as many things as you can. Fill a whole page, and start another one. Add to your list every time you think of something, and READ THIS LIST OFTEN.

Use your list to help you express appreciation every day, and add to your list as you spontaneously find new things to appreciate about them.

Then, when you MOST NEED to feel and express appreciation for them (when it’s hardest), look at your list and reconnect with what you love about them. Then communicate with them from there.

THE BEST PART

Here’s part of the transformation I promised in the title of this post: the more in touch you are (daily is good) with these feelings of appreciation, the MORE YOU WILL ELICIT MORE OF THOSE WONDERFUL ATTRIBUTES FROM YOUR PARTNER, MORE OF THE TIME.

YOU don’t change their behavior, but their behavior will change.

Because when YOU have a consistently high vibration of appreciation about that person, YOUR behavior will actually change… and then so will theirs. You will call forth and connect with those aspects of them that you most cherish.

The tricky part at the beginning is to ignore aspects of their behavior that you don’t like and don’t want. Yes, I said ignore. What you resist, persists. If you are irritated, angry, disappointed, hurt, sad, or exasperated, you are having a negative reaction (which is a negative vibration) to their behavior, and you’ll only attract more of that unwanted behavior from them.

It’s simple Law of Attraction. When you regularly express the vibration of appreciation, you’re putting LOA to work for you deliberately and with a positive outcome.

BACK TO VALENTINE’S DAY

So, it’s the special day and you’ve only just started this whole process. Maybe not enough time yet for miraculous transformations to occur.

Give this a try: feel and express your appreciation toward your partner… and don’t expect anything from them. Don’t set yourself up for any disappointments today—just appreciate and enjoy anything and everything that’s positive and loving, and let the rest go. Easier said than done sometimes, but use today as a powerful opportunity to practice this if you need to.

Also try this: YOU do something romantic and loving and thoughtful FOR your partner (and still expect nothing in return). This lets YOU set the tone. Then enjoy and appreciate your own efforts and positive intentions on this, regardless of your partner’s response.

These two actions form the other transformational aspect of this tip. By doing one or both of these actions, you’ve shifted the burden of expectation off your partner’s shoulders. Who wouldn’t appreciate that!

Your partner will no longer feel pressured and stressed about how to please you or satisfy your expectations (tasks which may be quite daunting for them), and they—and you—are MUCH more likely to have an enjoyable, relaxed… and even romantic… time together.

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I hope you found this tip useful and valuable. Please let me know your experience with it by leaving a comment or emailing me at evelyn@humandesignforsuccess.com.

For more ideas and information about operating more effectively in your life and improving your relationships, request your FREE Human Design Chart and Decision Maker’s Kit which will also subscribe you to my Quick Tips, articles, and occasional Celebrity Chart review emails.

Click here to learn about a Relationship Reading. It makes a great gift for Valentine’s Day, or any time of year. Truly a gift that keeps on giving!

[I originally posted this article a few years ago, which explains the older comments below. Please feel free to add your comments now!]

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“Human Design TYPES in Relationships” Series: Reflectors

Reflectors – “Mirror, mirror …”

Reflector ImageReflectors, the last Type in our series on Types in Relationship, are very rare (less than 1% of the population) but are very important pieces in the whole puzzle of humanity.

They are here to reflect the health and well-being of the community they belong to. We gain clarity about ourselves as a group (and to some extent, personally) as we see ourselves reflected back to us through the Reflector—they are our mirror.

They are exceptionally wise beings who should be sitting on a purple cushion being consulted by leaders and elders regarding the health and correct direction of the community. But our modern day environment is often not very Reflector-friendly.

All nine of their Energy Centers are OPEN (white), so they are energetically open and very sensitive beings. Because of this, they are more influenced than any other Type by the Gate energies moving through the moon—all 64 Gates move through the Moon every lunar cycle of 29 days.

To make correct decisions, a Reflector must wait 29 days—through a full lunar cycle—to see how they feel about the decision after moving through all those energetic influences.

You can imagine how challenging that decision-making Strategy is in today’s fast-paced society!

With this basic understanding of Reflectors, we’ll look at their issues in relationships after the description of this Series below.

About This Series

Human Design gives us deeply insightful knowledge about the nature of WHO we are and HOW we behave as human beings.

Your personal Human Design chart (you can get your free Human Design chart here) helps you understand the energy dynamics and personality characteristics of YOU.

Human Design also helps you understand the other people around you and the nature of YOUR relationship with them.

This makes possible the achievement of supportive, fulfilling,
and constructive relationships in every area of your life.
And in every relationship in your life!

Wouldn’t THAT be something!

This series of articles about “Human Design TYPES in Relationships” will help you move forward along this most noble and worthy path. 😉

Today’s article explores how the REFLECTOR TYPE interacts with OTHERS.

Quick Refresher

There are five TYPES of people in Human Design. Type is determined by which Energy Centers (geometrical shapes on your Human Design Chart) are colored in and how they are connected to each other. In other words, your Type reflects your personal energy configuration. Type is usually indicated in writing on a Chart.

Each TYPE has a Role to play in life and has a particular decision-making and action-taking Strategy that is the best and most correct way for that TYPE to operate in life.

Here is a very brief description of the TYPES and their Roles and Strategies:

Manifestor approximately 8% of the population
Role: to initiate action from ideas
Strategy: inform everyone in your “impact field” before you take action
Click here for my article about Manifestors in Relationships

Generator approximately 37% of the population
Role: to find the right work and the right partner in life
Strategy: wait to respond with your Sacral energy before you take action
Click here for my article about Generators in Relationships

Manifesting Generator approximately 33% of the population
Role: to find the right work and the right partner in life (and to find the fastest way to do things)
Strategy: wait to respond with your Sacral energy then inform everyone in your “impact field” before you take action
Click here for my article about Manifesting Generators in Relationships

Projector approximately 21% of the population
Role: to manage, guide and direct the energies of others
Strategy: wait to be invited into life’s big decisions (love, marriage, career, where you live), and wait to be asked or recognized before sharing your wisdom
Click here for my article about Projectors in Relationships

Reflector less than 1% of the population
Role: to reflect the health of our communities back to us
Strategy: wait 29 days (full lunar cycle) for clarity before you take action

The REFLECTOR in the World and in Relationships

Sports Fan in Stadium — Image by © Royalty-Free/Corbis

Reflectors “need” people because they are “non-energy beings” and rely on the energetic connections that others provide. But they also need alone time to discharge energy they take in through their nine Open Centers.

Like the Projector and Manifestor, the Reflector does not have “sustainable energy.”  Only Generators and Manifesting Generators have that. So Reflectors are not wired to “work” a typical job sustainably, which can be an issue in relationships and in earning a living.

They must also talk about their decisions to others, as they are not designed to know themselves and only find their own clarity by seeing it reflected back to them by others. (Yes, it works both ways to some extent!)

They have a VERY different life experience than all of the other Types, so Reflectors can feel alone and misunderstood, and also suffer deep disappointment. They need more attention than most other people, and may at times feel inadequate and believe that they don’t fit in anywhere.

Some famous Reflectors are: Richard Burton, Sandra Bullock, Uri Geller, Rosalynn Carter, Fyodor Dostoyevsky, H.G. Wells, Yul Brenner

If You ARE a Reflector…..

  • You must manage your energy; it is not sustainable.
  • Your have a subtle but unmistakable personal power from your deep wisdom.
  • Recognize and embrace that you are someone who needs others.
  • Take time to make decisions (at least 29 days); don’t be rushed.
  • Talk to others and/or journal during your decision-making process to build your clarity over time.
  • You need a consistent and supportive group of friends and loved ones.
  • Don’t criticize yourself for your changeability—you are designed to be open and fluid… you are not fixed, and not designed to be certain about things.
  • Know that some people won’t like seeing what you reflect back to them.
  • Learn to manage your theme of disappointment. Follow your strategy to minimize energy drains and disappointments.
  • Figure out how to remove yourself from constant bombardment of energy from others—your sensitivity is easily overwhelmed in large crowds or with constant exposure.

If You LOVE a Reflector….

  • Love them as they are, don’t try to change them; appreciate their very important role for humanity.
  • Give them space and time to themselves.
  • Allow them to manage their energy; don’t push them.
  • Honor their long decision-making cycle.
  • Let them talk—they need to hear their issues and feelings reflected back to them through you.
  • Help them recognize when an environment isn’t healthy for them.
  • Know that they may “need” you more than you need them.
  • Know that you will see the truth about yourself through them—and be okay with that.
  • Don’t take their disappointments personally.

I invite you to share below any success stories you have had as a Reflector or as someone in relationship with a Reflector. Your generosity in sharing for the benefit of everyone is greatly appreciated!


UPDATE – spring 2018

I reached out to a colleague, Leslie vanWinkle, who is herself a Reflector and a Human Design Specialist, about collaborating with other Reflectors to create an opportunity for Reflectors to be together and learn together.

She has put together an online group where Reflectors can:

  • come together and support each other
  • learn how to decondition and release the influence of other people and the environment (without getting overwhelmed and hijacked by the energy of others), and
  • explore how Reflectors can step into their unique role in service to their communities.

This Facebook group is open to Reflectors and family members of Reflectors, with more events in the planning stages.  Input and co-creation from other Reflectors is welcomed!

You can apply to join the group here:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/2023153674629187/ 

You can also email her:
Leslie vanWinkle at  Humandesign4lm@gmail.com   (the “lm” in the address stands for Life Mastery)

She looks forward to connecting with each of you and welcoming you into the group.

 

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Quick Spotlight: Cool way for couple to use Emotional Center

I recently did a Full Reading (3 sessions) for a client then an Initial Reading (1 session) for her husband. She gave him his Reading as a birthday gift!

Below I describe what’s cool about the way they operate as a couple. PLUS, they figured this out even before they knew anything about Human Design!

But Human Design gives us (and them!) the energetic explanation of why it works.

She has an Open Emotional Solar Plexus Center (large triangle on right side of chart is white) which means she takes in other people’s emotional energy… and amplifies it. She also has a total of 6 out of her 9 energy centers Open, so she takes in lots of various energies from others… and amplifies them.

She would sometimes feel overwhelmed and very frustrated (she’s a Manifesting Generator) in dealing with challenging people–especially employees–in the day-to-day running of her business, and feel very emotional about it.

Her husband has a Defined Emotional Solar Plexus Center (large triangle on right side of chart is tan color) which means he has emotional waves and he does NOT take in emotional energy from others.

When he sees that she is really frustrated emotionally (and even angry sometimes), he encourages her to “dump” all that emotional energy on him. He lets her vent and helps her get it all out of her system.

He says, “It’s fine. I can take it.”  And he can. Having her vent her pent-up emotional torrent around him does not faze him in the least. And it does her a world of good to release all that stuff.

Absolutely brilliant. And so caring. What beautiful teamwork.

I welcome your comments below.

 

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“Human Design TYPES in Relationships” Series: Manifestors

Manifestors – “I’ll Do It My Way”

[Manifestor image]Manifestors, approximately 8% of the world’s population, are crucial pieces of the human puzzle, but relatively rare. They are here to initiate action, get the ball rolling and make things happen.

They don’t need to wait for any outside confirmation before taking action. They rely only on their own sense of right timing although that tends to get them in trouble with the people around them when they don’t inform beforehand of what they are about to do!

Most Manifestors are not particularly good at finishing the things they start. They are really not designed to do the sustained implementation of their ideas and projects, or do follow-through and maintenance tasks. Theirs is a creative and initiating energy.

Manifestors give the rest of us things to respond to—they are like the cue ball on a pool table, bumping into the other balls and causing them to move.

With this basic understanding of Manifestors, we’ll look at their issues in relationships after the description of this Series below.

About This Series

Human Design gives us deeply insightful knowledge about the nature of WHO we are and HOW we behave as human beings.

Your personal Human Design chart (you can get your free Human Design chart here) helps you understand the energy dynamics and personality characteristics of YOU.

Human Design also helps you understand the other people around you and the nature of YOUR relationship with them.

This makes possible the achievement of supportive, fulfilling,
and constructive relationships in every area of your life.
And in every relationship in your life!

Wouldn’t THAT be something!

This series of articles about “Human Design TYPES in Relationships” will help you move forward along this most noble and worthy path.  😉

Today’s article explores how the MANIFESTOR TYPE interacts with OTHERS.

Quick Refresher on Human Design TYPES

There are five TYPES of people in Human Design. Type is determined by which Energy Centers (geometrical shapes on your Human Design Chart) are colored in and how they are connected to each other. In other words, your Type reflects your personal energy configuration. Type is usually indicated in writing on a Chart.

Each TYPE has a Role to play in life and has a particular decision-making and action-taking Strategy that is the best and most correct way for that TYPE to operate in life.

Here is a very brief description of the TYPES and their Roles and Strategies:

Manifestor approximately 8% of the population
Role: to initiate action from ideas
Strategy: inform everyone in your “impact field” before you take action

Generator approximately 37% of the population
Role:  to find the right work and the right partner in life
Strategy:  wait to respond with your Sacral energy before you take action
Click here for my article about Generators in Relationships

Manifesting Generatorapproximately 33% of the population
Role:  to find the right work and the right partner in life (and to find the fastest way to do things)
Strategy:  wait to respond with your Sacral energy then inform everyone in your “impact field” before you take action
Click here for my article about Manifesting Generators in Relationships

Projector approximately 21% of the population
Role:  to manage, guide and direct the energies of others
Strategy:  wait to be invited into life’s big decisions (love, marriage, career, where you live), and wait to be asked or recognized before sharing your wisdom
Click here for my article about Projectors in Relationships

Reflector less than 1% of the population
Role:  to reflect the health of our communities back to us
Strategy:  wait 29 days (full lunar cycle) for clarity before you take action
(next month’s issue will address Reflectors in relationships!)

The MANIFESTOR in the World and in Relationships

Like Projectors and Reflectors, Manifestors do NOT have “sustainable” life force and work force energy. Only Generators and Manifesting Generators have that consistent energy from their Defined Sacral Center. Manifestors have an Open Sacral Center.

This can very much affect their relationships as well as their work choices and life choices.

[Burn Out]Manifestors CAN and DO have jobs or businesses and raise families but they can burn out around age 50 (or before) if they are trying to do too much and especially if they are pushing themselves to keep up with the 70% of the population with consistent Sacral energy.

Manifestors don’t “need” people the way other Types need people, which affects how they operate within relationships. Their biggest challenge (and a key piece of their Strategy for success in life) is INFORMING those who will be impacted by their actions before they act.

More so than other Types, they do not like being told what to do. If they feel required to ask permission to do things or feel manipulated in some way, they may become overtly defiant and angry with others or become repressed and turn their anger inward on themselves.

Manifestors have powerful auras and have an energetic impact on those around them. That impact can be positive and pull people in or it can repel people.

They have a much easier time of “making things happen” in the world than any of the other Types.

Some famous Manifestors are: Adolph Hitler, Al Gore, George W. Bush, Johnny Depp, J. Edgar Hoover, Krishnamurti, Jerry Seinfeld, Susan Sarandan, Jack Nicholson, Robert DeNiro, Ra Uru Hu (the man who brought Human Design into the world)

If You ARE a Manifestor . . .

  • It’s correct for you to start things, and not necessarily to finish them or to implement all the details. You must learn to delegate and/or move on when it feels correct to do so.
  • If you’re feeling stuck or “shut down,” start initiating more in your life. It’s okay to start with small tasks and projects in order to rebuild that “initiating muscle” which may have been suppressed for most (or all) of your life. You’ll feel MUCH better when you are behaving the way you are designed to behave.
  • Remember to inform people who may be impacted by your actions before you take action. It may take courage to start doing this and time for it to become a habit, but it will be worth it… your relationships will improve because of it.
  • Keep in mind that informing is NOT asking for permission, so don’t be afraid of others saying no or trying to stop you. You can still do as you intended, but you might be wise to take their views into consideration if you can… there’s usually nothing wrong with a second opinion!
  • Recognize the impact you have on people around you. You have a very strong and powerful aura. Others will usually feel your presence when you enter a room. Some Manifestors are surprised to learn this about themselves, but the people around them know it to be true!
  • Trust what ‘feels’ right to you (not just what your brain-based analysis tells you).
  • Manage your energy and take breaks when needed; don’t try to keep up with the sustainable energy of Generators and Manifesting Generators. It’s MUCH easier to avoid burn out than to recover from it.

 If You LOVE a Manifestor . . .

  • See that you don’t take their anger personally; understand that it’s part of their process.
  • Accept that they may not “need” you in the way you need them and that it’s nothing against you. They are designed to act on their own, but they can engage and inspire people when “in tune” with those around them and when keeping them informed of their dreams and plans.
  • Don’t interrupt them when they’re in their “groove” of figuring things out and getting things done. Also, they’re not ignoring you—they are simply completely engaged in their own internal process.
  • Keep them informed about YOUR actions, and make it easy for them to inform you… without fear of recrimination or rejection.
  • Respect their privacy; don’t ask or pry. They may not always be able to articulate what’s going on their mind.
  • Trust them in their role of initiating action and giving others things to respond to – that’s what they’re here to do!
  • Don’t judge or criticize when they start then stop projects. Trying is often the only way they can know if something is correct for them. Instead, allow them their own consequences—they usually don’t want to be “helped” unless they’ve asked for help.

I invite you to share below any success stories you have had as a Manifestor or as someone in relationship with a Manifestor. Your generosity in sharing for the benefit of everyone is greatly appreciated!

 

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“Human Design TYPES in Relationships” Series: Manifesting Generators

Manifesting Generators:  Nothing Moves Fast Enough for Them

Manifesting GeneratorThere’s a good chance you either ARE one or have a RELATIONSHIP WITH a Manifesting Generator somewhere in your life–they are approximately 33% of the world’s population. Like Generators, they have sustainable energy and constitute a significant part of the world’s work force.

While they share many characteristics with Generators, and some practitioners refer to the two as one Type, here we will look specifically at only the pure Manifesting Generator (your Human Design chart will show “Manifesting Generator” as your Type).

Manifesting Generators have two primary focuses in life:  work and family/mating, so they are usually immersed in relationships all their lives.

Unlike the Generator:

  • Manifesting Generators have a Motor Center to the Throat so can more easily manifest ideas into action, though like the Generator they do need to check in with their Sacral Response before taking action.
  • Manifesting Generators are here to find fastest way through things and may skip steps while getting things “done.”  They may need to go back and fix what they skipped if it was important.
  • Manifesting Generators are the busiest Type and like to have multiple balls in the air.
  • Nothing seems to move fast enough for many Manifesting Generators.
  • The authentic energy of Manifesting Generators may be VERY intense; they are often dynamic and manifest projects and outcomes with a productive burst of energy that keeps on going. They eventually run out of steam, but watch out once they’ve recharged themselves!

They are born to “respond” to everything around them, which they do quite naturally. But often those responses happen so fast that the Manifesting Generator is not consciously aware of them.

Human Design shows Manifesting Generators that they have an amazing internal guidance system—their Sacral Energy Center. It is the red square on the Chart, and only Generators and Manifesting Generators have it. All other Types have a white (“Open”) Sacral Center. This guidance system helps them in all decisions, especially their relationships.

          About This Series

Human Design gives us deeply insightful knowledge about the nature of WHO we are and HOW we behave as human beings.

Your personal Human Design chart (you can get your free Human Design chart here) helps you understand the energy dynamics and personality characteristics of YOU.

Human Design also helps you understand the other people around you and the nature of YOUR relationship with them.

This makes possible the achievement of supportive, fulfilling,
and constructive relationships in every area of your life.
And in every relationship in your life!

Wouldn’t THAT be something!

This series of articles about “Human Design TYPES in Relationships” will help you move forward along this most noble and worthy path.

Today’s article explores how the MANIFESTING GENERATOR TYPE interacts with OTHER TYPES.

          Quick Refresher on Human Design TYPES

Please refer to an earlier article in this series for the Quick Refresher on Human Design TYPES, and to read about each of those specific Types. Remaining Types will be published in coming months.

“Human Design TYPES in Relationships” Series: Projectors

“Human Design TYPES in Relationships” Series: Generators

         The MANIFESTING GENERATOR in Relationships

Manifesting Generators who use their inherent energy correctly and follow the inner guidance of their Sacral response are a dynamic and powerful force that benefits the world… and are magnificent to watch in action!

When their Sacral response had guided them to the “right” work for them, they have nearly inexhaustible energy to do that work and get it done FAST!

Because of their sustainable work force and life force energy, they tend to be steady partners in relationships although their specific personality characteristics will be affected by the many other energies in their Human Design Chart.

There are times, though, that you may feel left out of the Manifesting Generator’s world.

This is because:
– They are in their creative “groove” and don’t like to be interrupted
– They don’t “need” other people the way some Types do
– They like to get things done… FAST
– They have sustainable energy… they keep going and going and going
– They may forget to inform the people around them of their actions BEFORE taking them.

They are energizer bunnies who can hold down a job, raise a family, get involved in the PTA or other activities, maybe do volunteer work, stay physically active, and pursue various interests. Not all Manifesting Generators do all of these things… but they could!

Some famous Manifesting Generators are: Frederic Chopin, Marie Curie, Hillary Clinton, Clint Eastwood, Sigmund Freud, Mahatma Gandhi, Steffi Graf, Marie Antoinette, Mikhail Gorbachev, Jimi Hendrix, Pope John Paul II, Janis Joplin, Friedrich Nietzsche, Richard Nixon, Yoko Ono, Prince, Jacqueline Onassis, Martin Luther King, Vincent Van Gogh.

           If You ARE a MANIFESTING GENERATOR . . .

Your brain will often work hard to figure out the right answers for you, but that is NOT where YOU want to be making your decisions and choices. That’s what your Sacral responses are for.

If you’re not waiting for life to “come to you” and then responding to it (so you know if you should pursue that thing or not), then you won’t know what is truly “right” for you to apply your considerable energy and competence to.Multiple directions

It’s likely that you’ve been rushing off in a lot of scattered directions until now, without waiting to respond. Problem is… that’s just not correct for you. Hence, many “wrong” directions, accompanied by frustration, anger, and impatience.

Sadly, closest relationships often bear the brunt of those reactions. When you wait for and follow your inner guidance, you’ll have less frustration spilling over onto others. And recognizing that the frustration and anger you feel is just energy can also help you minimize its impact on others.

However, frustration IS part of your personal learning curve, so you won’t be avoiding it entirely. It takes courage to wait for, trust, and follow your Sacral Response… but everything in your life (including relationships) will benefit when you do.

You’ll be more effective in your relationships when you work at being as respectful of others as you can, watch out for power struggles, and learn to bend a little. Also, remember to INFORM those who will be impacted by your actions BEFORE you take those actions.

Don’t worry about skipping steps, moving fast, and multi-tasking… you are designed for these! Don’t let anyone try to slow you down.

You also need to be active enough during your day to be physically tired when you go to bed. It’s as if you wake up each morning with a full tank of gas, and you need to use it all before you sleep. Then you wake up with a new full tank the next day and do it all again. If you’re not sleeping well, try getting more physical activity. This is especially true for Manifesting Generator children, many of whom are incorrectly diagnosed with ADD or ADHD.

           If You LOVE a MANIFESTING GENERATOR . . .

If you are not a Manifesting Generator but are in a relationship with one, follow these guidelines:

-Accept that they move fast, fast, fast, and may leave you behind at times. Don’t try to keep up–you will wear down and burn out.  Once this energy difference in your relationship is truly understood and respected, you’ll both be happier. Most of all, enjoy the ride!

-Understand that it is correct for them to wait for their inner guidance before they take action.

-Allow the Manifesting Generator the time to wait for things to respond to, and the freedom to honor and follow their responses… even if their responses “appear” to not be logical.

-The most respectful—and helpful—way that you can interact with a Manifesting Generator is to ask them Yes/No questions. This allows them a clear opportunity for their Sacral Center to respond and give them guidance.

Don’t take their frustration/anger/impatience personally. Recognize that it’s part of their process, and when you support them in being true to their Manifesting Generator nature you’ll help them minimize all of that.

I welcome you to share below any success stories you have had as a Manifesting Generator or as someone in relationship with a Manifesting Generator. Your generosity in sharing for the benefit of everyone is greatly appreciated!

 

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Quick Tip: Sleep Separately… Really?

Energetically, it is correct (and usually beneficial) for couples to sleep separately… especially if they are a mixed-Sacral couple.

A mixed-Sacral couple is when one person has a Defined Sacral Center (Generator or Manifesting Generator) and the other person has an Open Sacral Center (Manifestor, Projector, or Reflector).

Here’s why it’s good for them to sleep apart, at least some of the time: the Open Sacral person needs time away from the consistent Sacral energy of their partner, especially while sleeping, to restore their Open Sacral Center to its natural open state. Often the Open Sacral person doesn’t sleep well next to the buzzing Sacral of their loved one–even if the Defined Sacral is sound asleep!

Ideally each of us should have our own private space for sleeping. But that’s not always practical. And what about all the snuggling and other good stuff???

At the very least, try sleeping apart just one night a week and see if it makes a difference for the Open Sacral person. A Projector client recently shared with me that she started sleeping apart from her Generator husband one night a week since her Reading with me a few months ago. She has been amazed at how refreshed she feels when she does that–despite sleeping on a somewhat uncomfortable sofa!

Another Projector client has been sleeping separately from her Manifesting Generator husband for a few years now (since they first learned about Human Design) and she says it makes a HUGE difference in the quality of her sleep.

Make sure you convey to your Defined Sacral partner that it’s not personal that you want/need to sleep alone sometimes. And be sure to get plenty of quality snuggle time with him or her in between!

If you are a Manifestor, Projector or Reflector, try sleeping alone some nights… you might like it!!!

 

P.S.  I am friends with a dear couple—a Manifestor and Projector combination. Even though they both have Open Sacral Centers, their composite Gate energies Define the Sacral within their relationship. And they find sleeping separately to be crucial for their well-being. They’ve been doing this for three years and love it (and are still very loving with each other… it hasn’t diminished their ardor at all!)

P.P.S. If you’d like to find out more about how your energies connect with your loved one, I invite you to consider a Custom Reading where you each have a one-session Basic Personal Reading, then we do a Relationship Composite Reading for both of you.

I welcome your comments below!

 

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Quick Spotlight: “He didn’t change, I did!”

A few years ago a local client (a spry and fun 60-something Manifesting Generator) had a Full Reading with me, and in the process we talked a little about her live-in Generator boyfriend. There was some friction between them and she was hoping to learn what to do about it.

(This was long before I was offering Relationship Readings, but I would look at the chart of a spouse or significant other to shed some light on the relationship dynamics during someone’s personal Reading.)

She found her Reading to be very useful and insightful for herself and also about him—she listened well and asked great questions.

A few weeks later I saw her in town and asked how things were going. She looked directly at me said (with a little amazement in her voice) that her relationship with her boyfriend had improved significantly but it wasn’t him who had changed, it was her!

I asked her to say a little more about what happened and this is what she said:

“I stopped expecting him to be something he’s not. And, I stopped expecting myself to be something that I’m not.”

So simple. Yet so powerful.

 

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