The other day I was visiting a good friend and we both received the same email asking for a donation to help another friend who was in need. My friend’s first reaction was that her income was limited right now and she just couldn’t afford to give any money away.
The next morning she said she had thought about it and realized she had been coming from a place of lack. And living a lack-based life wasn’t what she wanted to do or who she wanted to be. So she made a donation… with love and good will in her heart and a genuine spirit of generosity.
What struck me about this… and why I’m sharing this with you… is the power of SELF-realization. When she first mentioned her reaction, I could have pointed out that she was coming from a lack mentality.
I could have expounded on Law of Attraction, you reap what you sow, yadda yaddda yadda.
Not only would I have come off as preachy (which is especially unpleasant because I am a Projector), but she likely would have become defensive and just dug deeper into her reaction.
Instead, she had the space and took the time to come to her own realization and evolution in her thinking. It’s always more powerful when we see things for ourselves, rather than have someone else point them out.
Words don’t teach, only experience teaches.
This phrase is repeated often in the Abraham-Hicks work. It has made a lasting impression on me. It seems like a pretty fundamental principle of life.
It’s also why we say in Human Design to experiment with your design and try for yourself all that you learn about it. Don’t take anybody’s word for it. Go live it and see what happens.
Only from your direct experience of the results you produce will you have true understanding.
This, of course, also applies in every other aspect of our lives — with children, bosses, friends, spouses, etc.
Especially with children, it can be hard for us to let them experience things for themselves. We want to tell them what to do and what not to do. We want to share the benefits of our own experience. How well does that usually work?
So, in keeping with this theme, I invite you experiment with this principle. Because these words won’t teach you. Only your experience will. And let me know what you learn!