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Quick Tip: Words Don’t Teach, Only _______ Teaches

The other day I was visiting a good friend and we both received the same email asking for a donation to help another friend who was in need. My friend’s first reaction was that her income was limited right now and she just couldn’t afford to give any money away.

The next morning she said she had thought about it and realized she had been coming from a place of lack. And living a lack-based life wasn’t what she wanted to do or who she wanted to be. So she made a donation… with love and good will in her heart and a genuine spirit of generosity.

What struck me about this… and why I’m sharing this with you… is the power of SELF-realization. When she first mentioned her reaction, I could have pointed out that she was coming from a lack mentality.

I could have expounded on Law of Attraction, you reap what you sow, yadda yadda yadda.

Not only would I have come off as preachy (which is especially unpleasant because I am a Projector), but she likely would have become defensive and just dug deeper into her reaction.

Instead, she had the space and took the time to come to her own realization and evolution in her thinking. It’s always more powerful when we see things for ourselves, rather than have someone else point them out.

Words don’t teach, only experience teaches.

This phrase is repeated often in the Abraham-Hicks work. It has made a lasting impression on me. It seems like a pretty fundamental principle of life.

It’s also why we say in Human Design to experiment with your design and try for yourself all that you learn about it. Don’t take anybody’s word for it. Go live it and see what happens.

Only from your direct experience of the results you produce will you have true understanding.

This, of course, also applies in every other aspect of our lives—with children, bosses, friends, spouses, etc.

Especially with children, it can be hard for us to let them experience things for themselves. We want to tell them what to do and what not to do. We want to share the benefits of our own experience. How well does that usually work?


So, in keeping with this theme, I invite you experiment with this principle. Because these words won’t teach you. Only your experience will. And let me know what you learn!


7 comments… add one
  • Michelle August 19, 2015, 3:01 pm

    As a 6/3 Manifesting Generator, I approve this message! My whole trial-and-error life has shown me repeatedly that I learn best from experience. Thank goodness for human design, which has helped me forgive myself for having to learn by trial-and-error. My parents were both 5’s and were often disturbed by my approach to things. And while it has been a hectic ride I feel so confident in the wisdom I gained, because I earned it from my own direct experience!

    • Evelyn August 19, 2015, 3:12 pm

      Thank you, Michelle, for sharing your experience of the value of direct experience! It’s SO important for 3rd line and 6th line profiles especially (6/3s like you, plus 1/3s, 3/5s, 3/6s, 4/6s, 6/2s) to make peace with their trial and error process. Let’s collectively rename it: trial and experience. Because those aren’t errors!

      • Michelle August 19, 2015, 3:14 pm

        Aaa ahhhh, I love that rewording! I will use that from now on! Trial-and-experience!

  • Mona August 19, 2015, 3:16 pm

    As a 2/4 projector–when I follow my strategy in myself–I can see where I’m a hermit wanting my quiet time and other times I want to go out and network. As a projector–letting my aura speak for me is when I get the acknowledgement of being wise & deliberate in my speaking to others. But that comes from experience–and words can’t teach only experience does. Hopefully if we are wise projectors we are choosing those experiences that benefit ourselves as well as others. Right on Evelyn.

    • Evelyn August 19, 2015, 3:20 pm

      Thank you for your confirmation, Mona. You seem to be a wise Projector indeed!

  • Lilian warman August 19, 2015, 10:21 pm

    I am 4/6 generator manifestor. I love the Trial & Experience! One big thing in my life that I was put in life to experience at the age of 12 was being raped by pirates. I was smuggling out of Vietnam by boat and along the journey we ran into pirates. I had never lived as a victim growing up but I have always asked myself “why me?”. After a recent reading by Karen on my Life Purpose, I got my answer. My human design chart has to do with humanity. The experience teaches me to forgive and love the people who is hard to love. This experience shows me that I still have compassion for humanity and I am the best person to serve the humanity. I also learn to forgive myself for all the choices I had made in the past and now I know that they were all experiences according to my 4/6 profile.

    • Evelyn August 20, 2015, 2:45 pm

      Thank you, Lilian, for sharing your very personal and moving story. I am so happy for you that you found the answer… and that it makes sense to you. And that you’ve been able to use it to forgive yourself as well as those who are hardest to forgive. Many blessings to you.

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