Energetically, it is correct (and usually beneficial) for couples to sleep separately… especially if they are a mixed-Sacral couple.
A mixed-Sacral couple is when one person has a Defined Sacral Center (Generator or Manifesting Generator) and the other person has an Open Sacral Center (Manifestor, Projector, or Reflector).
Here’s why it’s good for them to sleep apart, at least some of the time: the Open Sacral person needs time away from the consistent Sacral energy of their partner, especially while sleeping, to restore their Open Sacral Center to its natural open state. Often the Open Sacral person doesn’t sleep well next to the buzzing Sacral of their loved one–even if the Defined Sacral is sound asleep!
Ideally each of us should have our own private space for sleeping. But that’s not always practical. And what about all the snuggling and other good stuff???
At the very least, try sleeping apart just one night a week and see if it makes a difference for the Open Sacral person. A Projector client recently shared with me that she started sleeping apart from her Generator husband one night a week since her Reading with me a few months ago. She has been amazed at how refreshed she feels when she does that–despite sleeping on a somewhat uncomfortable sofa!
Another Projector client has been sleeping separately from her Manifesting Generator husband for a few years now (since they first learned about Human Design) and she says it makes a HUGE difference in the quality of her sleep.
Make sure you convey to your Defined Sacral partner that it’s not personal that you want/need to sleep alone sometimes. And be sure to get plenty of quality snuggle time with him or her in between!
If you are a Manifestor, Projector or Reflector, try sleeping alone some nights… you might like it!!!
P.S. I am friends with a dear couple—a Manifestor and Projector combination. Even though they both have Open Sacral Centers, their composite Gate energies Define the Sacral within their relationship. And they find sleeping separately to be crucial for their well-being. They’ve been doing this for three years and love it (and are still very loving with each other… it hasn’t diminished their ardor at all!)
P.P.S. If you’d like to find out more about how your energies connect with your loved one, I invite you to consider a Custom Reading where you each have a one-session Basic Personal Reading, then we do a Relationship Composite Reading for both of you.
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