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Quick Tip: Words Don’t Teach, Only _______ Teaches

The other day I was visiting a good friend and we both received the same email asking for a donation to help another friend who was in need.  My friend’s first reaction was that her income was limited right now and she just couldn’t afford to give any money away.

The next morning she said she had thought about it and realized she had been coming from a place of lack. And living a lack-based life wasn’t what she wanted to do or who she wanted to be.  So she made a donation… with love and good will in her heart and a genuine spirit of generosity.

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Hot Tip for a “Happy, Romantic AND Transformational” Valentine’s Day (or any other Day!)

Isn’t it sad how Valentine’s Day sometimes (maybe often) falls short of our hopes and expectations?

There is actually a Human Design explanation for the strange energetics surrounding this particular holiday occurring at this specific time of year, but that’s not my topic for today.

What I want to share is a way for you to reconnect with the passion and romance you used to feel with your partner—in spite of the weird energy (and all the commercial hype)—and to keep that passion going.

If you routinely have a totally happy and satisfying Valentine’s Day … good for you! (But read on, because this tip can make it even better.)

But for the rest of us, instead of a day of blissful romance and tender love with our partner, we sometimes end up with unfulfilled expectations, disappointments, and maybe even thwarted intentions. Not very romantic.

If you’ve been there, this tip’s for you!
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“Human Design TYPES in Relationships” Series: Reflectors

Reflectors – “Mirror, mirror …”

[Reflector]Reflectors, the last Type in our series on Types in Relationship, are very rare (less than 1% of the population) but are very important pieces in the whole puzzle of humanity.

They are here to reflect the health and well-being of the community they belong to. We gain clarity about ourselves as a group (and to some extent, personally) as we see ourselves reflected back to us through the Reflector—they are our mirror.

They are exceptionally wise beings who should be sitting on a purple cushion being consulted by leaders and elders regarding the health and correct direction of the community. But our modern day environment is often not very Reflector-friendly.

All nine of their Energy Centers are OPEN (white), so they are energetically open and very sensitive beings. Because of this, they are more influenced than any other Type by the Gate energies moving through the moon—all 64 Gates move through the Moon every lunar cycle of 29 days.

To make correct decisions, a Reflector must wait 29 days—through a full lunar cycle—to see how they feel about the decision after moving through all those energetic influences.

You can imagine how challenging that decision-making Strategy is in today’s fast-paced society!

With this basic understanding of Reflectors, we’ll look at their issues in relationships after the description of this Series below.

About This Series

Human Design gives us deeply insightful knowledge about the nature of WHO we are and HOW we behave as human beings.

Your personal Human Design chart (you can get your free Human Design chart here) helps you understand the energy dynamics and personality characteristics of YOU.

Human Design also helps you understand the other people around you and the nature of YOUR relationship with them.

This makes possible the achievement of supportive, fulfilling,
and constructive relationships in every area of your life.
And in every relationship in your life!

Wouldn’t THAT be something!

This series of articles about “Human Design TYPES in Relationships” will help you move forward along this most noble and worthy path. 😉

Today’s article explores how the REFLECTOR TYPE interacts with OTHERS.

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Quick Spotlight: Cool way for couple to use Emotional Center

I recently did a Full Reading (3 sessions) for a client then an Initial Reading (1 session) for her husband. She gave him his Reading as a birthday gift!

Here’s what’s cool about the way they operate as a couple. PLUS, they figured this out even before they knew anything about Human Design!

But Human Design gives us (and them!) the energetic explanation of why it works.

She has an Open Emotional Solar Plexus Center (large triangle on right side of chart is white) which means she takes in other people’s emotional energy… and amplifies it. She also has a total of 6 out of her 9 energy centers Open, so she takes in lots of various energies from others… and amplifies them.

She would sometimes feel overwhelmed and very frustrated (she’s a Manifesting Generator) in dealing with challenging people–especially employees–in the day-to-day running of her business, and feel very emotional about it.

Her husband has a Defined Emotional Solar Plexus Center (large triangle on right side of chart is tan color) which means he has emotional waves and he does NOT take in emotional energy from others.

When he sees that she is really frustrated emotionally (and even angry sometimes), he encourages her to “dump” all that emotional energy on him. He lets her vent and helps her get it all out of her system.

He says, “It’s fine. I can take it.”  And he can. Having her vent her pent-up emotional torrent around him does not phase him in the least. And it does her a world of good to release all that stuff.

Absolutely brilliant. And so caring. What beautiful teamwork.

I welcome your comments below.

 

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“Human Design TYPES in Relationships” Series: Manifestors

Manifestors – “I’ll Do It My Way”

[Manifestor image]Manifestors, approximately 8% of the world’s population, are crucial pieces of the human puzzle, but relatively rare. They are here to initiate action, get the ball rolling and make things happen.

They don’t need to wait for any outside confirmation before taking action. They rely only on their own sense of right timing although that tends to get them in trouble with the people around them when they don’t inform beforehand of what they are about to do!

Most Manifestors are not particularly good at finishing the things they start. They are really not designed to do the sustained implementation of their ideas and projects, or do follow-through and maintenance tasks. Theirs is a creative and initiating energy.

Manifestors give the rest of us things to respond to—they are like the cue ball on a pool table, bumping into the other balls and causing them to move.

With this basic understanding of Manifestors, we’ll look at their issues in relationships after the description of this Series below.

About This Series

Human Design gives us deeply insightful knowledge about the nature of WHO we are and HOW we behave as human beings.

Your personal Human Design chart (you can get your free Human Design chart here) helps you understand the energy dynamics and personality characteristics of YOU.

Human Design also helps you understand the other people around you and the nature of YOUR relationship with them.

This makes possible the achievement of supportive, fulfilling,
and constructive relationships in every area of your life.
And in every relationship in your life!

Wouldn’t THAT be something!

This series of articles about “Human Design TYPES in Relationships” will help you move forward along this most noble and worthy path.  😉

Today’s article explores how the MANIFESTOR TYPE interacts with OTHERS.

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“Human Design TYPES in Relationships” Series: Manifesting Generators

Manifesting Generators:  Nothing Moves Fast Enough for Them

Manifesting GeneratorThere’s a good chance you either ARE one or have a RELATIONSHIP WITH a Manifesting Generator somewhere in your life–they are approximately 33% of the world’s population. Like Generators, they have sustainable energy and constitute a significant part of the world’s work force.

While they share many characteristics with Generators, and some practitioners refer to the two as one Type, here we will look specifically at only the pure Manifesting Generator (your Human Design chart will show “Manifesting Generator” as your Type).

Manifesting Generators have two primary focuses in life:  work and family/mating, so they are usually immersed in relationships all their lives.

Unlike the Generator:

  • Manifesting Generators have a Motor Center to the Throat so can more easily manifest ideas into action, though like the Generator they do need to check in with their Sacral Response before taking action.
  • Manifesting Generators are here to find fastest way through things and may skip steps while getting things “done.”  They may need to go back and fix what they skipped if it was important.
  • Manifesting Generators are the busiest Type and like to have multiple balls in the air.
  • Nothing seems to move fast enough for many Manifesting Generators.
  • The authentic energy of Manifesting Generators may be VERY intense; they are often dynamic and manifest projects and outcomes with a productive burst of energy that keeps on going. They eventually run out of steam, but watch out once they’ve recharged themselves!

They are born to “respond” to everything around them, which they do quite naturally. But often those responses happen so fast that the Manifesting Generator is not consciously aware of them.

Human Design shows Manifesting Generators that they have [continue reading…]

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Quick Tip: Sleep Separately……Really?

Energetically, it is correct (and usually beneficial) for couples to sleep separately…especially if they are a mixed-Sacral couple.

A mixed-Sacral couple is when one person has a Defined Sacral Center (Generator or Manifesting Generator) and the other person has an Open Sacral Center (Manifestor, Projector, or Reflector).

Here’s why it’s good for them to sleep apart, at least some of the time: the Open Sacral person needs time away from the consistent Sacral energy of their partner, especially while sleeping, to restore their Open Sacral Center to its natural open state. Often the Open Sacral person doesn’t sleep well next to the buzzing Sacral of their loved one–even if the Defined Sacral is sound asleep!

Ideally each of us should have our own private space for sleeping. But that’s not always practical. And what about all the snuggling and other good stuff???

At the very least, try sleeping apart just one night a week and see if it makes a difference for the Open Sacral person. A Projector client recently shared with me that she started sleeping apart from her Generator husband one night a week, since her Reading with me a few months ago. She has been amazed at how refreshed she feels when she does that–despite sleeping on a somewhat uncomfortable sofa!

Another Projector client has been sleeping separately from her Manifesting Generator husband for a few years now (since they first learned about Human Design) and she says it makes a HUGE difference in the quality of her sleep.

Make sure you convey to your Defined Sacral partner that it’s not personal that you want/need to sleep alone sometimes. And be sure to get plenty of quality snuggle time with him or her in between!

If you are a Manifestor, Projector or Reflector, try sleeping alone some nights…..you might like it!!!

 

P.S.  I am friends with a dear couple—a Manifestor and Projector combination. Even though they both have Open Sacral Centers, their composite Gate energies Define the Sacral within their relationship. And they find sleeping separately to be crucial for their well-being. They’ve been doing this for three years and love it (and are still very loving with each other….it hasn’t diminished their ardor at all!)

P.P.S. If you’d like to find out more about how your energies connect with your loved one, I invite you to consider a Custom Reading where you each have a one-session Condensed Personal Reading, then we do a Relationship Composite Reading for both of you.

I welcome your comments below!

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Quick Spotlight: “He didn’t change, I did!”

A few years ago a local client (a spry and fun 60-something Manifesting Generator) had a Full Reading with me, and in the process we talked a little about her live-in Generator boyfriend. There was some friction between them and she was hoping to learn what to do about it.

(This was long before I was offering Relationship Readings, but I would look at the chart of a spouse or significant other to shed some light on the relationship dynamics during someone’s personal Reading.)

She found her Reading to be very useful and insightful for herself and also about him—she listened well and asked great questions.

A few weeks later I saw her in town and asked how things were going. She looked directly at me said (with a little amazement in her voice) that her relationship with her boyfriend had improved significantly but it wasn’t him who had changed, it was her!

I asked her to say a little more about what happened and this is what she said:

“I stopped expecting him to be something he’s not. And, I stopped expecting myself to be something that I’m not.”

So simple. Yet so powerful.

 

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“Human Design TYPES in Relationships” Series: Generators

Generators: Work & Family are the Focus

Pure Generators, approximately 37% of the world’s population, are the majority of our world’s work force. While they share many characteristics with Manifesting Generators and some refer to the two as one Type, here we will look specifically at only the Pure Generators (your Human Design chart will show “Generator” as your Type), which I’ll refer to as Generators from now on.

Generators have two primary focuses in life:  work and family/mating. So they are usually immersed in relationships all their lives. It is possible for a Generator to have primarily Individual energy, in which case they might not feel they fit in with their family and friends and they may prefer to be alone much of the time. But their work force and life force energy is strong and consistent.

They are born to “respond” to everything around them, which they do quite naturally. But often those responses are unconscious.

Human Design shows Generators that they have an amazing internal guidance system—their Sacral Energy Center—that responds to everything around them. It’s the red square on their Chart, and only Generators and Manifesting Generators have it. All other Types have a white (“Open”) Sacral Center (second square up from the bottom of the chart).

          About This Series

Human Design gives us deeply insightful knowledge about the nature of WHO we are and HOW we behave as human beings.

Your personal Human Design chart (you can get your free Human Design chart here) helps you understand the energy dynamics and personality characteristics of YOU.

Human Design also helps you understand the other people around you and the nature of YOUR relationship with them.

This makes possible the achievement of supportive, fulfilling,
and constructive relationships in every area of your life.
And in every relationship in your life!

Wouldn’t THAT be something!

This series of articles about “Human Design TYPES in Relationships” will help you move forward along this most noble and worthy path.  😉

Today’s article explores how the GENERATOR TYPE interacts with OTHER TYPES.

[continue reading…]

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Quick Spotlight: Manifestor & Projector Relationship Dynamics

A couple came to me last year for personal Readings then a Relationship Reading. She is a Manifestor and he is a Projector.

They were eager to learn how to improve their already loving marriage and also how to work together better. They own a gallery–she runs it and he is the artist.

First of all, the day-to-day running of a business is not ideal for a Manifestor so after her Reading she began delegating more to their employee and taking some time off each week to manage her energy better and focus more on her brilliance which was generating ideas for increasing their business.

Their pattern prior to their Readings was that she would enthusiastically share a new idea with him for the gallery (maybe a new painting style, subject matter, or arrangement of the gallery), and he would begin the process of shifting to align with and implement her idea. Within no time, she would have several new ideas and be eager to implement those instead. She’s a Manifestor so that approach of “throwing the spaghetti against the wall to see what sticks” is correct for her.

But he admitted to feeling exhausted from trying to keep up with her ideas. It was like he had whiplash from the speed of her frequent changes in direction! And it was a source of friction and frustration for both of them.

When we discussed the dynamics between their different Types and Strategies, they realized that he could simply wait until some of her ideas “stuck to the wall” before he began implementing. And she agreed to “invite” him to implement when she felt good about really pursuing a particular idea.

They were so excited (and grateful) to have a clear and sensible solution to their issue. It honored and respected their respective Strategies. And above all, the solution felt inherently right to both of them.

 

I welcome your comments below!

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