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Series: Fears of the Spleen #1 – Introduction

We all have fears that occasionally stop us, slow us down, or knock us off track completely.  If you know when the Fear Gates of the Spleen are transiting and affecting all of us, you can confidently navigate these challenges and move through them with ease.  Understanding these gates will also help you manage them if they are defined in your Human Design chart.

While the focus of my online work and private readings with clients is providing uplifting and reaffirming explanations of chart energies, it’s truly useful to understand these Splenic Fears—so you know how to handle them.

In this Fears of the Spleen series, we will explore all seven Gates/Splenic Fears in the order they occur as the sun progresses through the 64 Human Design Gates.

It turns out that all 7 Splenic Fear Gates occur one right after the other from late September through early November every year!

No wonder Halloween happens near the end of that run.  <wink wink>

To get the most from this series, you’ll first need to understand how the sun transits through the gate energies affecting us all, and also understand Splenic Fears in general.  [continue reading…]

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Quick Tip: Will Power 101

Figure 41 - Will CenterNow that we’re well into the year, you may be bumping up against an occasional lack of will power when it comes to keeping your New Year’s resolutions or staying on track with your brand-spanking-new goals.

Even if you didn’t set goals or resolutions (I recommend intentions instead), you may still be grappling with how to hold to your general direction or even just how to be true to your values.

“So what’s the deal?,” you may ask.  “Why do others seem to have will power, but I don’t?  What’s wrong with me?”

There is nothing wrong with you, and it is likely that you might not have inherent will power at all.  And it’s okay.

Let me explain.   [continue reading…]

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Quick Spotlight: Cool way for couple to use Emotional Center

I recently did a Full Reading (3 sessions) for a client then an Initial Reading (1 session) for her husband. She gave him his Reading as a birthday gift!

Here’s what’s cool about the way they operate as a couple. PLUS, they figured this out even before they knew anything about Human Design!

But Human Design gives us (and them!) the energetic explanation of why it works.

She has an Open Emotional Solar Plexus Center (large triangle on right side of chart is white) which means she takes in other people’s emotional energy… and amplifies it. She also has a total of 6 out of her 9 energy centers Open, so she takes in lots of various energies from others… and amplifies them.

She would sometimes feel overwhelmed and very frustrated (she’s a Manifesting Generator) in dealing with challenging people–especially employees–in the day-to-day running of her business, and feel very emotional about it.

Her husband has a Defined Emotional Solar Plexus Center (large triangle on right side of chart is tan color) which means he has emotional waves and he does NOT take in emotional energy from others.

When he sees that she is really frustrated emotionally (and even angry sometimes), he encourages her to “dump” all that emotional energy on him. He lets her vent and helps her get it all out of her system.

He says, “It’s fine. I can take it.”  And he can. Having her vent her pent-up emotional torrent around him does not phase him in the least. And it does her a world of good to release all that stuff.

Absolutely brilliant. And so caring. What beautiful teamwork.

I welcome your comments below.

 

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Master the Emotional Dynamics in Your Relationships – Part 2

In our last article, we looked at the rich and “delicious” emotional experience we are capable of as human beings. And while our deep emotions often enhance the bonds we feel with others, emotions also can negatively affect our relationships by potentially adding stress and emotional wounds to the already complex realm of how we interact with each other.

The place to begin when exploring the emotional dynamics of our relationships is to first understand ourselves. Our last article encouraged you to examine your personal Human Design chart and determine if you have a “Defined Emotional Center” or an “Open Emotional Center.”  Click here to read Part 1 of this article if you haven’t yet, as you’ll need its information for the rest of this article.)

The Emotional Center (called the Solar Plexus in Human Design) governs the ups and downs of the wave-like patterns in our emotional energy. Those who have a Defined Emotional Center (it’s colored in) experience and broadcast emotional waves. Those who have an Open Emotional Center (it’s white) take in and amplify the emotional waves of those broadcasting the waves.

That information alone can explain so much about your experiences in life and the dynamics of your past and present relationships!

How Our Energies Affect Our Relationships

In any type of relationship, two people’s energies always influence each other. The details of this can be seen by looking at their Human Design charts and creating a “composite” chart that blends their two charts together (which can be done manually or with special software).

The Open energies (white geometrical “Centers”) in our charts create predictable issues and behavior patterns that can be addressed and managed through awareness—both individually and in our relationships.

The bottom line is….any relationship can work—with the correct understanding of the energetic dynamics….and a little patience!

Now, let’s look at the specific role of powerful Emotional Energy in our personal relationships. [continue reading…]

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Quick Tip: The Key to Better Relationships

Human Design shows us that any relationship can work.

Of course some combinations are easier than others. And it makes sense to choose to be with people that you like and feel comfortable with. That means friendships, family members, romantic relationships, business partnerships, etc.

But there are NO hard-and-fast rules for relationships, like people of the same Type get along best, or certain Profiles shouldn’t be together. “Rules” like that don’t really work.

There are two fundamental keys to improving any relationship:  understanding and patience.

Understanding means knowing who the other person IS…their Design…how they’re “wired” energetically.

Patience means allowing for how they are different from you and accepting them AS they are…warts and all! Differences and all!

Here’s an example. Let’s say you have a Defined Identity Center (yellow diamond shape in middle of your Chart) and the other person has an Open Identity Center (white diamond shape). You may be confused or frustrated that the other person seems to have a different personality depending on whom they’re with, and/or that person really struggles with figuring out who they are and what they want to do in life. YOU don’t have those issues and you’re seriously questioning what’s up with them that THEY are having these issues! But those issues are normal for someone with an Open Identity Center. When you know that, you can love and accept them just as they are and gently help them find what is most correct for them. And let go of your frustrations (and any judgments you might have) about it.

One more example. Let’s say you have strong Tribal circuit energy in your chart, so you like to hug and touch and spend time with your friends and loved ones. Let’s say your spouse does not have Tribal energy and you feel underloved (not touched or hugged enough, for example) by him and hurt that he won’t spend time with you and your family. When you understand that he is literally wired differently, you won’t take his behavior so personally and you may be able to ask clearly for what you want. To some extent he can probably learn new behaviors, they just won’t come naturally to him—and it’s not personal!

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Master the Emotional Dynamics in Your Relationships – Part 1

Emotions can be such a “delicious” part of being human. We have passion and pathos, romance and longings. We experience optimism and hope, unconditional love and pure bliss. We create soaring pieces of music, stunning works of art, and deeply moving poetry and prose.

We also can feel despair, revenge, depression, anger, sadness, pessimism, and cynicism, among others.

Quite a range! This rich emotional experience distinguishes us from the animals with whom we share this planet…. at least as far as we currently know. Many animals do share basic feelings with us—happiness, sadness, pain, fear, tenderness, caring and love.

But the complex tapestry of deep emotions seems to be our realm.

How These Emotions Affect Our Relationships

While our depth of passion enhances our life experience and deepens our bonds with the people in our lives, our emotional range can also be a source of much strife, stress, and emotional wounds in our relationships.

Although emotions are just one piece in the bigger picture of our relationships, they are undoubtedly the most dramatic, and perhaps the most impactful.

Human Design reveals a very useful understanding of our own emotional experiences and of the emotional dynamics in relationships.

With this understanding, we have tools to handle our own ups and downs and to master the emotional dynamics in any relationship (romantic partner, parent-child, co-worker, etc.). [continue reading…]

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Quick Tip: Nature of Emotional Energy

Emotional Energy, as described in Human Design, is the passion, pathos, romance and creativity that give our lives rich complexity and exquisite experiences. They also potentially give us anguish and melancholy. As with all polarities, we could not fully experience the “highs” without having some “lows” as contrast.

But we’re not doomed to periodic misery. Our “lows” can bring value to us without the suffering (remember: suffering is optional!). And only about 50% of us are directly subject to these emotional variations.

Take a look at your personal Human Design Chart (if you don’t have your Chart yet, click here).

If the large triangle on the lower far right of your Chart is colored in, then you have a Defined Emotional Solar Plexus Center. This means that you probably have emotional ups and downs on a fairly regular basis. Emotions and passions ebb and flow through you. They are a natural cycle and integral part of your life experience.

  • Pay attention to these ups and downs so you can track your “emotional wave”
  • Accept the WHOLE of YOU–the lows as well as the highs
  • Embrace the low parts of your wave as times for introspection, integration, and even heightened creativity
  • Recognize that your decision making is influenced by where you are on your wave and wait through at least a full emotional cycle before making important decisions (you are NOT designed for spontaneous decision making).

If that triangle is white on your Chart, you have an Open Emotional Solar Plexus Center. This means you take in emotions of other people and amplify them. If you were far away from all other people, say vacationing at a remote cabin by yourself for a few days, you would be rather even-keel emotionally. You of course have feelings, but you do NOT broadcast emotional energy like the Defined Emotional people described above.

  • Start paying attention to how much you are affected by the emotions of others
  • Start to consciously let go of the emotions you don’t enjoy as soon as you feel them–don’t hold on to them and let them affect you, they are not actually yours!
  • Practice the mantra “Be a Screen, Not a Sponge” regarding emotional energy from others
  • Discharge any emotional energy you may have picked up during the day
  • If negative emotions start to escalate, break “auric space” with the other person (get out of their aura) for a little while
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Health Indicators in Your Chart – Part 2: The Nine Centers

Use Your Human Design Chart to Help You Stay Healthy and Vibrant

There is no shortage of theories and advice for addressing health issues and challenges, and for attempting to maximize our well-being.

Here is a very different approach. Use your Human Design Chart!

Click here to read the Introduction to this article series and Part 1 about the Five Types

Click here to read Part 3 about Significant Gates and Channels

Part 2: The Nine Centers

In this second part of the three-part series of articles about using Human Design to improve our well-being, we look specifically at the nine Energy Centers and how they affect us. (You’ll need your Human Design Chart to see your Energy Centers.)

Chart with 3 Open Centers

There are nine geometric shapes (triangles andsquares) within the large triangle of your chart’s bodygraph, which is on the right side of your chart. These are your energy centers. Each center carries and manages a different frequency of energy that we experience as humans.

Usually, some of your centers will be colored in and some will be white. A few people have all nine centers colored in. These people are designed to have a large impact on rest of us. Fewer than 1% of the population has all nine centers white. They are called Reflector Types.

The centers that are colored in are called Defined or fixed. Having a center defined means that you have a specific and consistent way of processing and experiencing that kind of energy in your life. Your Defined Centers are your strengths.

The white centers are called Open or undefined. When you have a center Open it means that you don’t have a fixed or consistent way of processing and experiencing that particular energy.

Open centers are our greatest teachers and deepest source of [continue reading…]

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Quick Tip: Embrace Your Emotional Wave

If you are emotionally defined (the large triangle—the Emotional Solar Plexus Center—on lower right of your chart is tan/brown), recognizing and embracing your emotional wave is THE most powerful thing you can do to for yourself and your relationships.

If you’re emotionally defined, you have an emotional wave –> sometimes you’re UP emotionally, and sometimes you’re DOWN. There are several different kinds of waves: some are small ups and downs, some are dramatic high “highs” and low “lows.” If you have small ones, you may not always feel them but if you have the big ones, you’ll know it!

The channels that define your Solar Plexus determine the kind of wave (or waves) you have. Your wave would be explained fully to you in a private Reading.

ADVICE: When you are low on your emotional wave, which may feel like low energy or even melancholy, there is nothing wrong with you and you don’t need “fixing.” It’s a normal part of your emotional cycle. It can be a great time for contemplation, introspection, and integration. It can even be a time of heightened creativity. So welcome your wave—your whole wave…even the low parts!

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Quick Tip – Pressure, Stress and the Root Center

The Root Center, the square at the bottom of the Human Design chart, is the center for adrenaline energy, stress and getting things done. If your chart has that center colored brown/tan, it is DEFINED. If that center is white, it is OPEN.

A DEFINED Root Center can handle stress and pressure reasonably well and has a natural energy “pulse” that is sometimes ON and sometimes OFF. When your energy is ON, great time to get things done. When it’s OFF, obey your pulse as much as possible and take it easy or rest completely. When your energy returns (which it will), you’ll once again feel like doing things.

An OPEN Root Center takes in adrenaline energy and amplifies it, so you can feel under tremendous pressure to get things done. You probably have a never ending “to do” list and never feel FREE because you never get it all done. And you may rush through tasks just to get out from under the pressure. Your freedom and wisdom come when you recognize that it’s just energy, that the pressure is usually self-imposed (and therefore can be negotiated), and that it’s possible—even desirable—to “just be free” even when you still have things to do on your list. You’ll function better when you manage the stress and pressure in your life.

When an Open and a Defined Root Center are in a relationship, the Open Root may interpret the other’s Root energy as pressure, even when no pressure was being exerted. For example, if the Defined Root asks “What’s for dinner?” the Open Root may feel like they have to drop everything and plan dinner or begin preparing dinner and may even feel resentful about the imposition, even though it was simply a question—not a pressure. Awareness, communication, and deliberate releasing of any perceived pressures will help the relationship.

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