Here are my Top 5 Tips for THRIVING this year. Notice I didn’t say “surviving” or “hoping this year will be better than last year.”
What I’m sharing with you goes MUCH deeper. It’s about TRANSFORMING how you “do” your life, so you can (finally) experience the fulfillment of your heart’s desires.
By putting just these 5 suggestions into practice, your year can be filled with clarity, wisdom, and positive forward momentum—propelling you toward the life you are meant to live!
Tip #1: Focus on your intentions
Try using intentions rather than specific and measurable results. An intention gives you vital “wiggle room” which allows you to practice getting consistent at something, thereby avoiding any early (and often devastating) pronouncements of failure.
For example, if you want to lose weight, stop smoking or start meditating, it means that you either:
- don’t know how
- know how, but aren’t doing it
- are ‘sort of’ doing it but not consistently enough for the results that you want.
In any of those cases, you need practice (which includes trial and error) to figure out what is going to work for you. Setting an intention can give you the space to make (and learn from) the necessary mistakes that are part of this process.
It also allows for multiple paths that can get you there, and makes possible end results that might be FAR BETTER than whatever specific goals and plans you might have made.
Setting an intention is a similar process to setting a goal, but the difference is…that you don’t plan exactly how to get there. You intend a clear outcome then surrender to the learning and fulfillment process.
So think about who, what, and how you really want to BE, and set an intention or two or three. You don’t want too many to start with. Just a few that really resonate with you and feel good to you. Then, let the unfolding begin! Remember, you can FINISH STRONG by starting NOW with powerful intentions!
For more information on the topic of setting your intentions and focusing on BEING (rather than DOING or HAVING), I invite you to check out my blog post about it here.
Tip #2: Be Yourself + Love Yourself
It sounds simple enough, but of all the 5 tips I’ve found THIS to be the BIG ONE.
As individuals, we often compare ourselves to others. But it’s a mind game we just can’t win. And—just to ensure the game isn’t fair—we usually compare our worst (the stuff that only we see) with their best (the stuff only others see). No wonder we don’t feel good about ourselves!
However, while many of us struggle with discovering who we are and acting with confidence from that centered place, there is some great news:
Once you discover Who You Truly Are, it’s much easier to appreciate and even love yourself! Being a fully-expressed YOU is the best gift you can ever give yourself and your loved ones. This one habit provides the perfect structure for adding joy and confidence back into your days and embracing life on YOUR terms.
How do you get there from here?
Understanding YOUR Design is the most effective way I’ve ever seen to learn to KNOW, ACCEPT, and LOVE YOURSELF. Once you understand YOUR energetic structure and begin to follow your strategy, a whole new world opens up to you!
Dr. Wayne Dyer said it this way: “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
Knowing your HUMAN DESIGN will forever change the way you view yourself, others, and the world. Once you are on the path of BEING yourself and LOVING yourself, the world itself will serve you with new opportunities and greater rewards.
To support you in your process of self-discovery, I highly recommend a personal Reading. Learn more about Readings here. If you’re not ready for a Reading yet, you can learn quite a bit about yourself for free or low cost. Learn more about that here.
Tip #3: Embrace Change
It’s been said that CHANGE is the only constant in life, and we can easily see major changes happening all around us, all the time. The only way to thrive in this highly-charged, fast-moving environment is to understand and embrace the changes.
As the Borg so accurately put it: “Resistance is futile.” Intelligently going with the flow is SO much easier than paddling upstream!
Human Design not only helps us to understand and embrace these monumental changes (and they are mostly changes for the BETTER!), it also acts as our anchor in this whirlwind of confusing information and conflicting perspectives.
When you stand on a sure foundation of knowing yourself, and make your decisions from deep self-awareness as well as broad understanding of the larger evolution unfolding, you’ll KNOW how to leverage these changes for the benefit of yourself and others. You will be able to consciously create healthy expansion as well as WIN-WIN everywhere in your life.
Knowing and USING the Strategy for your TYPE will allow you to stand strong, soar with new winds, and strike a balance between the two.
Tip #4: Raise Your Vibration
The only thing in life we have ANY control over is ourselves—specifically our thoughts, feelings and reactions… in other words, our energetic vibration.
Your vibration is your point of attraction, so if you want to attract positive things into your life, you must have a positive vibration. Remember, like attracts like (Law of Attraction).
When you’re complaining, unhappy, angry, etc., those energies become your vibration and what you’ll attract will be more of that (a negative downward spiral).
Raising your vibration is the single most powerful thing you can do to change the quality of your life.
Easy. For starters, follow the Human Design Strategy for your TYPE. Doing that will naturally align your energy, help you be at the right place and the right time (which makes it easier to feel good), and help you feel better about yourself overall.
With less resistance and a little positive momentum, your vibration will increase… leading to better results and more happiness… which further raises your vibration (a positive upward spiral).
Doing this will also help others—by your example and by your positive energy. One of my favorite quotes is: “A rising tide lifts all boats.” What each of us does, truly matters. We affect not only ourselves and those around us, but also the greater whole.
The other way to raise your vibration is to deliberately choose to feel good. From wherever you are, you can choose a thought, feeling or belief that will cause you feel a little bit better. From there, you can choose to feel a little better yet, etc. Don’t rush this process. Best to be deliberate and “build that muscle” for being able to raise your vibration whenever you choose!
Tip #5: Allow Others to be Themselves – without Judgment
In Tip #2, we discussed Be Yourself + Love Yourself. Once you KNOW, ACCEPT and LOVE yourself, it’s easier to KNOW, ACCEPT and LOVE others, without judgment. And when you truly love yourself and love others—AS THEY ARE—your life will improve by quantum leaps!
A FEW WORDS ABOUT WIRING…
When you know how you are “wired” you can more easily work with your strengths, leverage your best, and minimize areas where you’re vulnerable. You will know how to be more effective, more successful, and feel more fulfilled!
When you know how others are “wired”—especially family members, spouse, children, etc.—it’s easy to be more tolerant and loving, and your relationships with them will improve noticeably.
When others are allowed to be who they are (which does not excuse bad behavior but helps all involved to understand their tendencies) and they reach for the highest expressions of their energies, their behavior tends to improve by itself… and so do their relationships!
So this wraps up my Top 5 Tips for THRIVING. Remember, I’m not looking to help you “survive” or just shoot for “better than last year.” I truly want you to THRIVE!
Here’s a quick review:
- Tip #1: Focus on your intentions
- Tip #2: Be Yourself + Love Yourself
- Tip #3: Embrace Change
- Tip #4: Raise Your Vibration
- Tip #5: Allow Others to be Themselves – without Judgment
Understanding YOUR Human Design gives you a platform of knowledge and wisdom that you can use as a springboard—especially in the midst of any personal chaos and confusion you may be experiencing. What you learn about yourself and the world from Human Design will make it easier for you to truly THRIVE.
I look forward to each day and I’m so happy that you’re on this path with me. Let’s look back this time next year and say, “See! I knew we could do it! I knew we could THRIVE and soar beyond what we ‘thought’ was possible!”
These well-thought-out tips are GREAT, Evelyn. I’ve meant to thank you much earlier for your dedication to your work as well as for the benefit I derive from your newsletters and free webbies. I appreciate you sent out an email for those of us who have financial stress (mine due to complex health issues) and cannot afford your services for the time being. I see and feel your heart in your communications and appreciate you very much for who you are and the light you bring to the world through your right livelihood. Many Blessings and wishes for a delightful and fulfilling 2015. — S. M. Seattle, WA.