Does your path feel a bit bumpy? Are you struggling, or seriously lacking “flow” in your life? If so, you may be experiencing your NOT-SELF theme!
“What is a NOT-SELF Theme?”
“So, How Can I Know Who My REAL-SELF Is?”
That’s easy. Your Human Design Type (from your personal chart—if you don’t have yours click here) is the fundamental energy structure you were born with. This structure determines the role in life you are “designed” to play and also gives you the decision-making and action-taking strategy that is specifically correct for your energy.
“Why Is That Important?”
When your choices and actions are in alignment with your natural energetic structure—which they are by using the Strategy for your Type—then you are living true to your real SELF… your Authentic SELF. And that’s when “flow” happens. That’s when synchronicity shows up. That’s when you’re in the right place at the right time, and things start to get easier.
“Feels Like Magic?”
You’ve probably had moments in life like that… when things just fall into place and everything flows smoothly. And it feels like magic. Well, it isn’t exactly magic, it is actually the correct use of energy. Specifically, it’s your actions correctly aligning with your natural energy.
We don’t usually re-create that kind of alignment in our lives easily because we don’t know what we did right! Human Design—with information about YOUR personal Type and Strategy—gives you the understanding and tools to create a lot more of that “magic” in your life.
“How Do I Find MY Type and Strategy?”
There are five Types in Human Design: Manifestors, Generators, Manifesting Generators, Projectors, and Reflectors. Each person is one of those five Types, and each Type has it’s own Strategy. All you need to provide is your birth date, time and place so your personal chart can be created which shows your Type and Strategy (and much more about you as well!).
“Do I Have to Learn About All the Types?”
Even though four of the Types are not YOUR Type, I recommend that you read about all Types whenever you can. First, you will understand yourself better by knowing who you are NOT, in addition to knowing who you ARE.
Second, you will understand the people in your life better. Simply by knowing and respecting each person’s Type, you can improve your relationships with them dramatically.
To request your own chart and charts of others, gather the birth date, time (as accurate as possible) and place for each person, and go to:
“So, What’s My NOT-SELF Theme?”
You’ll find a one word description of your NOT-SELF Theme (simply called “Theme”) on your chart, on the line below Type—but there’s more to it than that.
Although your Type, in fact your whole chart, does not change over your lifetime what does change is how you express the energies in your chart. There’s a range of expression from high to low for every energy you carry.
When you live your Type and Strategy, you more easily live the high expression of your energies. When you’re not living in alignment with your Type and Strategy, your energies are not aligned, you’re more easily influenced by others, you’re more easily distracted away from your Authentic SELF, and you more readily experience the lower expressions of your energies—this is your NOT-SELF.
In this article (Part 1) we’ll explore the NOT-SELF themes for two of the Human Design Types: Generators and Projectors. Next month in Part 2 will look at the remaining three Types.
The NOT-SELF Theme of Generators
As a Generator your NOT-SELF theme is Frustration, but this does not mean you are doomed to a life of pushing a rock up a hill.
Nature of Frustration
Your Frustration shows up when you try to make things happen, instead of waiting for something to respond to before taking action. Waiting to respond—and responding with your Sacral sounds—is YOUR Strategy, and Strategy is your antidote to frustration. When you wait for the inner guidance of your Sacral, you will minimize frustration.
Say out loud “uh-huh” for yes, and “uhn-uhn” for no, every time life presents you with something to respond to…which is many times daily. If you are emotional by Design (large triangle on lower right of chart is light brown), use Sacral responses throughout your emotional wave for clarity.
Like the Manifesting Generator, you learn in bursts of mastery followed by plateaus of no improvement, despite great effort.
You may want to quit when frustrated by your lack of progress. Use your Sacral response to know if quitting is correct for you. If not, stay with it—mastery will come!
How to Minimize Your Theme of Frustration
Follow Strategy: Wait to respond, then act when response is positive. Understand that a little frustration is part of your learning process.
The NOT-SELF Theme of Projectors
As a Projector your NOT-SELF theme is Bitterness. When your well-intentioned advice meets with resistance or worse, or your life just seems harder than everyone else’s, you may (understandably) feel resentful and even bitter.
Pearls of Wisdom
Your role in life is to manage, guide and direct the energies of others through innate knowing and valuable accumulated wisdom.
Your decision and action strategy is to WAIT TO BE INVITED OR RECOGNIZED. It’s best to be personally invited into big things in life, like love and marriage, career and jobs, where you live and moving. If you offer advice, opinions or direction without being asked, you’ll likely be ignored or misunderstood. And you may be perceived as bossy, controlling, or irritating.
It can be easy for Projectors to veer toward bitterness because:
1. Invitations to big things in life (career, love, where you live) don’t come often
2. You don’t have sustainable energy (and may even be called lazy!)
3. It’s not correct for you to initiate
4. Feeling rejected or not valued breaks your heart
5. Bitterness keeps new invitations away, which results in more bitterness
How to Minimize Your Theme of Bitterness
Wait for the right timing—via invitations (in other words: follow Strategy). Wait to be recognized or asked BEFORE speaking. If you wait, the right people will ask for and appreciate your wisdom, and the right invitations will come. Cultivate patience. Don’t take things personally.
P.S. If you’re new to Human Design and you found some of this information confusing or unclear, I invite you to learn more: on my website for free, via my ebook Human Design 101, or through a private Reading with me (which is the best way to learn about yourself and your chart).