I recently reached out to a colleague, Leslie vanWinkle, who is a Reflector and a Human Design Specialist, about creating an opportunity for Reflectors to be together and learn together.
She is excited and moving forward with putting together an online group where Reflectors can:
- come together and support each other
- learn how to decondition and release the influence of other people and the environment (without getting overwhelmed and hijacked by the energy of others), and
- explore how Reflectors can step into their unique role in service to their communities.
If learning more about (and possibly joining) this group is something that appeals to you, please send an email to:
Leslie vanWinkle at firstname.lastname@example.org (the “lm” in the address stands for Life Mastery)
Leslie has created a Facebook group that is open to Reflectors and family members/loved ones of Reflectors, with more events in the planning stages. Input and co-creation from group members is welcomed!
She has a handout that is particularly useful for Reflectors, which she will send to you along with directions for how to join the Facebook group. (Just give her a few days; as a Reflector, she follows her own internal timing).
In your email to Leslie, please tell her a bit about yourself. For example:
When did you learn you were a Reflector? How has that affected your life? Have you had a Human Design Reading yet? What’s your biggest challenge as a Reflector (or as the ally of a Reflector?
She is looking forward to connecting with each of you and inviting you into the group.
If you are a Projector (or love a Projector), please join our ongoing discussion group about how to be an empowered Projector.
Sandy Freschi and Robin Gallob (fellow Projectors) have teamed up with me to create a safe space to explore what really supports and makes a difference for Projectors.
This is the first public appearance of the Empowered Projector Movement — an idea I’ve been quietly nurturing for about a year now.
The group is open to Projectors and those who love Projectors. It’s completely free and there is no obligation.
It is a closed Facebook group, so you’ll need to click the link below to request to join. You’ll be asked 3 questions so we can learn a little about you before you’re given access.
There are some GREAT discussions going on right now, and everyone is learning so much from each other’s experiences.
As moderators, Sandy, Robin and I post discussion questions, encourage sharing and exploration, and engage with the group. Our role is to listen, facilitate, and support.
Our purpose with this group is to empower as many Projectors as possible—because the world needs as many empowered Projectors as it can get!!
Projectors have a vital role to play in the consciousness evolution of humanity. We need to feel and be SELF-empowered so we can correctly guide others. And so we can have a great life in the process! Martyrdom is NOT an option. 😉
>> Click HERE to join the Empowered Projector Movement Group >>
Human Design shows us that only a very few of us (less than 9% – the Manifestors) don’t NEED others to make things happen in the world. This also means that the large majority of us are DESIGNED for interactions and relationships. And even Manifestors love and interact with others… they just don’t NEED them.
Even Hermits (2/4, 2/5, 6/2, and 6/2 Profiles) are designed to be “called out” of their hermit-ness for the built-in, natural balance of solitude and human interactions that they need to thrive in their lives.
Okay, so we live in a matrix of interactions with each other. So why do we feel so alone sometimes? Maybe even feel abandoned by friends, family, loved ones, God… especially when we need them most?
My theory is that we isolate ourselves because we feel broken and unworthy. [continue reading…]
Over the past few months, two people who are dear to me have made their transition back to nonphysical. They “passed away” as we often say.
It was hard to watch them go down hill over the weeks that I had the privilege of being with each of them until the day they passed.
While we each have our unique Human Design that influences how we experience and interpret what happens to us and around us, there may be some aspects to coping with life (and death) that are perhaps more universal.
As I’ve reflected on my recent experiences, I realized that there were several things that helped me cope with the whole process… and I thought I’d share them with you with the hope and intention that they may be of help to you, too. [continue reading…]
The other day I was visiting a good friend and we both received the same email asking for a donation to help another friend who was in need. My friend’s first reaction was that her income was limited right now and she just couldn’t afford to give any money away.
The next morning she said she had thought about it and realized she had been coming from a place of lack. And living a lack-based life wasn’t what she wanted to do or who she wanted to be. So she made a donation… with love and good will in her heart and a genuine spirit of generosity.
What struck me about this… and why I’m sharing this with you… is [continue reading…]
I came across this “tool” several years ago and find it very useful for myself and my coaching clients. So I thought I’d share it with you during this Summer of Self-Love Series!
Here’s why this tool is relevant to Self-Love: the key to Self-Love is SELF-AWARENESS.
While Human Design is absolutely brilliant in the self-awareness department, there are a few other tools that are also helpful.
I like this one because it is a self-assessment that you can use anytime, for any purpose, and completely tailor it for YOUR needs and desires. It also helps you track your progress and shows you visually where you are the most out of balance. [continue reading…]
Do you usually feel good about yourself, or is it a rare occurrence? Is Self-Love part of your life experience?
What would it take to give yourself permission to actually, truly, fully love yourself? Unconditionally.
I really want you to think about that. What stops you?
Are you your own worst critic?
Do you beat yourself up when you don’t live up to your own expectations?
Are your standards so high that no one could meet them consistently?
Does that simply give you an excuse to keep beating yourself up?
Or do you let yourself off the hook somewhat, but still feel like a failure?
Is that pathway of self-flagellation so well-worn in your neural synapses that it’s harder and harder to treat yourself well?
(Can you tell that I’ve been down those pathways, too?)
Isn’t it amazing that most of us don’t truly love and cherish ourselves… and that we need to consciously give ourselves permission to feel good about ourselves!
I came across a very useful distinction recently that I want to share with you.
It’s not new, but the wording of it gives it great clarity and makes it memorable.
[And if it’s not memorable, we probably won’t remember to use it, right?]
So here it is: Learn to work on the SYSTEM, not the SYMPTOM.
It’s from Eben Pagan’s productivity course.
The point is that if something is not working in your life, look at the bigger picture rather than just the specific behavior or symptom.
If you are always tired, or constantly hungry therefore gaining weight, or feel scattered and unproductive, what habits are you doing (or not doing) that are leading to those results? And what systems or processes could you put in place to help you produce different results?
This distinction is easily applicable to understanding and USING Human Design in our lives.
Here’s an example: [continue reading…]
Here are my Top 5 Tips for THRIVING this year. Notice I didn’t say “surviving” or “hoping this year will be better than last year.”
What I’m sharing with you goes MUCH deeper. It’s about TRANSFORMING how you “do” your life, so you can (finally) experience the fulfillment of your heart’s desires.
By putting just these 5 suggestions into practice, your year can be filled with clarity, wisdom, and positive forward momentum—propelling you toward the life you are meant to live!
Tip #1: Focus on your intentions
Try using intentions rather than specific and measurable results. An intention gives you vital “wiggle room” which allows you to practice getting consistent at something, thereby avoiding any early (and often devastating) pronouncements of failure.
For example, if you want to lose weight, stop smoking or start meditating, it means that you either:
- don’t know how
- know how, but aren’t doing it
- are ‘sort of’ doing it but not consistently enough for the results that you want.
In any of those cases, you need practice (which includes trial and error) to figure out what is going to work for you. Setting an intention can give you the space to make (and learn from) the necessary mistakes that are part of this process.
It also allows for multiple paths that can get you there, and makes possible end results that might be FAR BETTER than whatever specific goals and plans you might have made.
Setting an intention is a similar process to setting a goal, but the difference is… [continue reading…]
I received such wonderful feedback on my last post about some of us not being designed to have “a Mission” in life (you may read it here), that I wanted to address some questions that came in.
One reader wrote that she has a Defined Identity Center (yellow diamond in middle of chart) but has no idea who she is, why she’s here, or what her mission is in life.
This situation can be caused by several issues: [continue reading…]